Tools, tips and advice to help you stop you eating when you feel stressed or bad.
I often hear Mums say they are ‘busy’, which is quickly followed by a sigh or a quick calculation of the day and the tasks they need to do. I want to offer you some insight on how using the word busy can affect your emotions, cause you to overeat and ultimately sabotage your efforts […]
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Do you find yourself putting off starting your weight loss goal because it is just not the right time? Have you caught yourself saying I will start after Easter or when lockdown finishes? Perhaps you feel you will be more confident at losing weight after you have completed a big presentation at work, after month-end, after you have
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Let’s start with mistakes. If you have a human brain, then you are highly likely to make mistakes. I have a friend who once told me that ‘children are professional mistake makers’. I love this thought as it immediately makes me feel compassion and acceptance for my children when they make a mistake. And instead
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I am stepping away from my scheduled blog post this week, due to an insight I wanted to share with you on decision making after painting my house on the weekend. What does painting have in common with weight loss and decision making you ask? More than you would think! This weekend I got stuck
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This is a topic close to my heart right now. As I write this, my husband, 2 boys and I are just completing our 14th day of quarantine in a Perth Hotel (we survived!). Escaping the feeling of boredom is a big culprit to sabotaging your weight loss goals. When you consistently eat to avoid
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As we move forward into 2021 and you commit to a new goal of losing weight, I offer you to focus your attention on developing your self-compassion. Why? Because when you are kind to yourself you can become your own coach, your own cheerleader and are a lot more likely to continue to take actions
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My family and I are avid travelers, and on Christmas afternoon we jet set off to New York, the city that never sleeps, or is that Seattle? Anyway, New York the big apple.
It’s not until we are all strapped in and I have remembered the kids snacks, the kids, ear plugs, books and charged technology (most important for a 5 hour flight), that I remember my fear of turbulence.
Thoughts of ‘We will Crash’, ‘We are going to die’, and the token gesture thought of ‘At least we are all going to die together’ slips in too. The first few bumps start to raise the alarm and the loop of thoughts start to occur. My body feels sweaty and I am on high alert. Panic set in.
But resisting the feeling of fear heightens the panic. So I decided to allow the feeling to be there and not avoid or resist fear. As soon as I decided to let the feeling in, it gave me a little relief. A bit like when you open a fizzy bottle and some of the gas is released. I decided to become the watcher of my mind and became curious as to where I was feeling this feeling of fear in my body. This is known as a meta skill. My muscles were tense, the feeling was fast, there was what felt like a contraction at the top of my stomach and a tightening around my chest and shoulders.
I let it in and breathed it in and out with big deep breaths that filled my stomach. This feeling of fear was created by the thought in my mind. So I checked it out. It was illogical. Statistics show that travelling by plane are overwhelming safer than travelling by car. I am more likely to die of a snake bite (and being in a plane greatly decreases my chance of that happening)!
So I learned to let my fear in, welcome it (which made me giggle a bit), become the watcher of my mind and body to locate where I felt the vibration that made up this feeling of fear. I breathed it in and out, and lastly, recognised that my illogical thought of ‘death by plane crash’ was all drama I had created.
Instead, I practiced a new thought ‘planes are a safe way to travel’ (but not great for global warming, another story!). When I stepped off the plane, I felt empowered with the fact I got some authority over the emotion. I am not saying I got rid of the fear, only that I am becoming a person who believes that ‘planes are a safe way to travel’. My willingness to be uncomfortable and my love of travel means I am sure I will have plenty more opportunities to welcome fear and to decrease or eliminate the feeling. Meantime, watch out for snakes.. those things are dangerous!
Have a beautiful day.
Rebecca
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